Do you talk dirty?
Ok, this post might end up in the search results for pr0n because the title, but it actually contains nothing sexually related. Sorry to disappoint you all (you dirty monkeys).
What I really mean to ask is, do you talk trash about other people? Strangers, friends, family, your neighbor’s dog1, I mean anyone. I’m not talking about pointing out someone’s fault in a constructive way or harmless joking, but purely talking shit2 because:
- you’re angry at them
- you think it’s funny
- you’re just an a-hole like that
- any combination of the above
I know for me and a lot of other people, we do it because it’s funny. I know it’s mean to laugh at other people’s expenses, but I’m too damn easily amused. I also talk trash when I don’t like you3, and I’m sure some of you have certainly wrote not-so-nice things about certain people on your blogs before. They might or might not have deserved it, but it’s a fine line between venting your emotions/stating the facts and just downright shitting on someone. More often than not, I find myself crossing that line because people actually laugh and have a good time4 when they hear me trash talk others.
But what goes around comes around5 It’s not so bad when people say stuff about me, though it will make me sad, but it hurts the most when you hear people say shit about the people you love, true or not. The things they say doesn’t even have to be really nasty. It can just be a simple unnecessary criticism, especially about something like appearances or race or sexuality, things that can’t be helped. Maybe they think it’s funny, but I certainly don’t, yet I have to admit that I have been guilty of doing the same idiotic thing to others without even a thought. I laughed, people laughed, we had a good time, but if the “fat” and “ugly” target of bashing heard the things I said, how would they feel? I never cared until now, and though it’s hard, I think it’s about time I grew up and stop trying to create laughter at other innocent people’s expenses6. Unless they did something totally obscene and awful, then don’t blame me for crossing the damn line.
- Not really a person, but still. ↩
- Half of which isn’t even related to the problem at hand. Eg: calling someone a “fugly whore” just because they stepped on your new $500 white shoes. ↩
- Probably because you’re an idiot, my biggest pet peeve. ↩
- One of the most popular posts on my blog is where I trash stupid girls who can’t type properly. And it’s not just on my blog, but in general too. I’m mad and trashing someone, and people just laugh. Either I have a really funny angry expression, which I don’t think I do, or they just enjoy listening to me put other people down. ↩
- I’m not even joking about this. Karma DOES exist, and oh is it a bitch. ↩
- Omg, I feel like such a bully now
When did I become so mean? ↩
Daniella says:
I think we all are naturally inclined to criticize others because they aren’t us, and we want to think ourselves as “perfect”. I know I’m mean, and I make fun of people for being idiots, but I’m sure people do the same to me. I mean, I do stupid things all the time.
But as long as you respect the fact that they are in fact a person, I don’t think it’s crossing the line. Cursing and trash talking have become so common these days I don’t think it’s as bad or serious as it was 50 years ago. Yeah, it’d be nice to be nice, but it’s not who I am. I’m mean, oh well.
Esme says:
Yeah, I normally talk about other people just because I think it’s funny. I don’t think I actually hurt them, because what I say is not really offensive… people do that to me all the time, it’s quite funny actually. But I do know what you mean about karma!!
MK says:
Oh that all is natural…
I take everything people say with a grain of salt cause you know their ain’t a point thinking about someone who hates you or hates people you like
Hazel says:
Hahaha, yeah, I admit, laughed at the title of this and got the wrong idea.
But yes, sometimes I do talk trash about people because I hate their personality or just generally dislike their whole being. And yes I do laugh at pictures or videos on the internet when I’m not supposed to, and I think most of us do it too. It’s sad but true..
tiara says:
I had that dirty thought. Lol
& Yes, I talk about people. Mainly because I am mad at them or Just cause I think they think they act as if they are queen. I tend to not do it anymore, It makes me feel so childish and when they talk about me – It’ll make me feel bad. So the last time I ever criticized someone was long ago. I forgot when.
Ana says:
I guess it’s human nature to want to say nasty things sometimes, but I try not to. And if those nasty htings aren’t true, it usually comes to back to bite you
Justin says:
I never talk bad about anyone (well, sometimes on accident until I realize). I know of someone that says men things about me to other people, and I refuse to sink to his level. I figure that eventually I’ll look good and they’ll look bad. Karma.
Justin says:
10 dollars?!?! Hahaha you crack me up. Could you care to explain how that price is the most appropriate for the deed?
Oridusartic says:
I do talk trash when something bad happened or if I was annoyed by some people, I’ll talk trash about them.
But yep, it’s not really a good habit so now I try to control my mouth better. Coz there’s no use to talk dirty. It makes us sounds ignorant.
Justin says:
haha awww thanks for the comment. So what are you up to? How’s the new year been??
Mimi says:
I guess I’m a dirty monkey because I was disappointed
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I seldom engage in putting down others. You’d have to get me pretty upset to talk about you like that. I’m very accepting of people and tend to put myself in other people’s shoes, so I stray away from things like that. There are times when I talk about someone like calling them stupid, hell even a prissy bitch, but it’s not a constant thing. & it’s not doing it to “entertain” someone or because I get enjoyment out of it. Sometimes you just have to vent about people when they irk your nerves haha.
Ongaku says:
Wow, if you feel like a bully then I’m doomed. I’m such a mean person at times, but then again I’m mean to peoples faces. Might be why I don’t really have friends, hehe.
I get what you are talking about. I do my best not to talk behind peoples back unless they are really on my shit list… what can I say? I’m not perfect.
SassyGirl says:
I’m guilty of occasionally making a joke at someone else’s expense. But I don’t think it’s trash-talking unless you have malicious intent. Without that intent, it’s just kind of like… teasing. Especially if it’s a joke you would make whether they’re around or not.
clairessa says:
omj, i love your 6th footnote hehe. well, it’s part of growing up i guess. but it’s classic reinforcement – friends laugh at your jokes where you’re making fun of someone or something and so you get gratification and make more. not doing it is going to be extremely hard. i don’t like it at all when ppl talk about ppl but im still struggling about knowing the difference between stating facts and talking about them because my friends do the same thing. but i have higher moral standards so it’s up to me to make sure I don’t stoop that low. so it’s gonna be hard but when i find myself talking about someone i normally tell myself to stop consciously and then stop physically. when i tell myself consciously, the thought of talking about people stays with me longer and helps me to think before i speak
try it b/c although my problem isn’t eradicated – it certainly has lessened in its severity though.
Jenny says:
LOL I think everyone does at some point. I know I have
Sapphire says:
LOL!!! I when I saw the title I thought “YES I DO TALK DIRTY! *WINK WINK*” haha jk
but talking trash…I used to. In high school, holy mama I did it to everyone I hated. Z_Z (They deserved it and they started it! AHH)
I agree with you. I stopped talking shit about people in high school and ended my days of ‘drama’ there. Once I started university, I would say I became ‘detached’ with most of the people out there so I wouldnt have anything to say about them and they wouldnt have anything to say about me
I have a couple of good, close friends and thats all i need 
Well, in my opinion theres a difference between talking trash and “discussing the truth”. For example, I would not randomly call someone fat, ugly, etc…but if it was one of my handful of friends and if their weight was becoming a serious problem, it would be discussed of course
Jay says:
Have you ever heard of the blog “Acerbic Bitches”? I think it was something along the same lines of your post
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I don’t think I’ve ever outright cussed someone out (verbally or online or otherwise), but I’ve definitely used a few cusswords for humor.