Now this is true friendship
After the ordeal with my crazy ex-friend, I learned to appreciate my true friends a lot more. One specific friend was Joanne. We’ve been close since freshmen year in college, but starting last semester, when me and Melanie1 got close, I started drifting away from Joanne, since Melanie would want to spend every minute of her free time with me. I didn’t mind, because I knew she was going through a tough time and Joanne had other friends to keep her company, but then Melanie started bad mouthing Joanne, who I know she didn’t like, and sadly, it rubbed off on me. I started thinking that Joanne was all those bad things Melanie told me, and above all, “not cool enough” to hang out with the group. Joanne ended up confessing to another friend of ours how she was upset by all this, but to me, she would always put on a smiling face and be there for me when I talked to her, as if nothing was wrong.
I felt terrible about how I treated her when I found out about everything, especially when I ditched such an amazing friend for some psycho. I know if I had been in Joanne’s position, I certainly would’ve NOT been happy with me, but when I went crying to her about how Melanie betrayed me, Joanne still comforted me and stood by my side as if nothing had changed. Even when I apologized to her about how I’ve been acting, not once did she blame me or get mad, but instead, she was completely understanding.
I wanted to kick myself in the face after all this, that I had been so stupid and blind to mistake a bitch for a true friend and almost lost someone who actually cared about me. Now this is true friendship 
- name changed. her real name to me is like Voldemort to the wizarding world – it shall not be named! ↩
Cy says:
I think I understand your situation — I have one best friend that I take way too much for granted, with whom I really haven’t hung out with much at all this year. Now that we’re all going separate ways for college, I realize I need to remedy that quick!
I think its better to avoid the drama llama. If someones seems like they embrace the dang animal, then just try not to get too close with them. :[
Glad your situation worked out for you! It’s great to have a wonderful friend.
Mimi says:
Yeah, it definitely sucks when you lose a close friend because you don’t work to maintain the relationship, and that’s happened too many times for me. I hope you and your friends stay close, even when though distance wise you’re far apart.
Lily says:
I really glad you have realised who your REAL friend was. I’m going through some friend troubles myself and somehow it’s worse than family troubles. But since the argument doesn’t involve me but my two best friends I figured I wouuld let them work it out by themselves.
Mimi says:
I hate people trouble, whether it be friends, family, or boyfriend. It sucks when you’re not on good terms with people you’re close to
Jay says:
You’re absolutely right! That really is true friendship. There are few people like your friend Joanne, so I stress to you to be very grateful. It’s one thing to be friends with someone who is forgiving, but to be friends with someone who is also understanding and willing to recognize that at the end of the day you meant no harm is just swell. I’m glad you were able to get rid of that *insert bad word here* of a so called friend Melanie. I’m also glad you didn’t let her completely come between you and Joannes friendship
Mimi says:
I am extremely grateful, and I’m so glad to have someone like her in my life, and to kick someone like Melanie out. Glad I made the right choices in the end.
Trish says:
Ugh, I know how that feels. I really try not to bad mouth people. Even when I REALLY don’t like a person, I still treat them nice unless they cross the line with me. Usually to get my evil thoughts of them unloaded, I tell my best friend or my mom. ‘Cause I don’t think my mom would go tell on me, haha.
I’m glad that you’ve found out who your true friend is; it’s one of the most important things in life to have someone who will always be there to comfort you when your whole world is crumbling apart.
Mimi says:
Wow, that’s impressive, I usually don’t handle those situations with such manners and grace, lol. But yes, it’s important to have true friends, especially during tough times, because they’re the ones that will really be there for you.
Honeul says:
Ooh, you have a very nice friend. You should keep her forever. I mean, Joanne is such a great true friend.
Mimi says:
I hope we stay friends even after college, after marriage, after kids, after who-knows-what else, haha. I wouldn’t want to lose a friend like her
anne says:
omy.. Joanne? that’s my name too. hehe! ü
it’s hard to find a true friend.
but whatever our friends are, good or bad.. we should appreciate them as well.. though it sounds pretty hard.
Mimi says:
I find it hard to appreciate a bad friend. I mean, other people can think of them as bad people, but as long as they’re good friends, I won’t judge. I hope that makes sense.
Cindy says:
Joanne sounds really nice … I would never have had that amount of patience! But hey at least you outright apologized, rather than making excuses for yourself like some people do.
Mimi says:
I wish I had realized my mistakes sooner, but I’m glad it was late than never, or else who knows what would’ve happened.
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Gel says:
I know how stupid it feels to mistake some REAL friends as the “bitches” in the situation. I’ve made that mistake before and I really regret it. But you know what they say, friends come and go and the true and worthy ones stick with you through thick and thin.
Mimi says:
*sigh* That’s exactly what I did and vice versa too! Hopefully I’ll learn from this mistake and not repeat it again.
Uninvoked says:
You have a true friend in Joanne. Treasure her always. People like that are so rare.
Mimi says:
Yes, I definitely treasure her friendship a lot more now that has happened. People like her are rare indeed.