Vengeance…When Does The Cycle End
I feel like in today’s society, we’re taught to get what we deserve and get even with those who’ve wronged us: an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. April and March must be the months of vengeance for my social circle, because I feel like everyone around me, including myself, has been trying to get back at someone. But then what? We hurt them, they hurt us, the vicious cycle just continues, creating more tears and pain. What’s even more ironic is that it’s happening between people who used to love each other, but I guess when love gets to an extreme, it becomes hate, and hatred leads to revenge.
Though I tried to play nice and not purposely rub it in his face, I knew that behind his back and in my heart it was vengeance at play. I didn’t use anyone, but circumstances just seemed to work for my benefit that I couldn’t help but use what was to be a good thing as a way to repay him for all the hurt he caused me. But then what? Contrary to what people say, vengeance didn’t taste so sweet. As a matter of fact, it hurt. It hurt me when I calmed down and thought about how he hurted, because I’ve been there before.
Needless to say, what goes around comes around, and I got my share of it too. Before tonight, I would’ve been like BRING IT ON, BITCH. But not anymore…
For a Christian perspective on this issue, check out Ever After – God Is The Judge.
Aleida says:
Hmmm… I can’t remember when I tried to get back at someone. I simply don’t like that style, in a way it would make me feel weak because I would hold a grudge. I just sulk a bit, move on and smile. My ex can be a big jerk and even now he can still hurt me with some remarks. I think he lacks empathy most of the time. I used to cry and cry and wonder why he said the things he said. Now I actually don’t really care too much. I don’t have to get back at him or (indirectly) hurt him. Being ‘me’ is already enough and I already know he envies my positive outlook on life. Life is too short and precious for hangups. Just like you said ‘what goes around comes around’ – if someone pulled something he/she will get it back in his/her face … I don’t have to do the payback, it’s seriously a waste of my time.
Remember the best way to get back at a jerk of an exboyfriend is HAVING FUN. Of course you can feel sad and mourn about your relationship. But you’re still alive, the sun is shining and you’re GREAT. Go out and enjoy life and let that idiot ask himself why he let you go in the first place
Brandy says:
Revenge is sweet.
Ms.Candy-Blush says:
I’ve always thought of something like that, but then.. nah I don’t want it I guess. I think God will deal with them sooner.
Katy says:
I think it’s natural that we tend to hurt the people we love… not that it’s a good thing but just because we see them all the time and sometimes we say mean things to them to protect them (eg. telling them the truth about something even when it’s not good).
Gel says:
Yeah initially we’d feel that taking revenge on someone is the best thing there is but in the end, we’d feel partially guilty coz the one we’re hurting is the same person we love :s Hope you’ll get over it though.
rikuka says:
mimi you’re back!
i totally agree with you about how society is and it sucks. hatred is such an awful feeling to hold inside and can easily consume you. but like you said~ what happens after we revenge. hopefully everything going on has been settled. just leave everything in the past an do your best to move on so you can find happiness <3
Ongaku says:
I guess a lot of it is human nature even if we don’t really want to hurt the other person. Pride is a sin but it is almost impossible not to have and when someone stomps and it and crushes it and then your heart… yeah I understand wanting revenge. I do my best not to do it but I’m only human like everyone else.
Cuase yeah, it only makes you feel awful afterward and it does nothing to help the situation.
Daniella says:
It’s not society currently, but human nature in general to want to get revenge. I’ve been there many times, but never had the guts to go through with it. It seems like it would feel good, but the fact that you recognize the pointlessness of it and care about the other person shows a lot about you. Now you can learn from it and make things better in the future.
Ivy says:
I’m generally quite vengeful, so I’ve verbally retaliated countless times against countless people. I’m not very sensitive towards emotions, so I don’t feel much about it. But I do feel quite tired from all the retorting I do.
But I realized, most of time there really isn’t a need for me to retaliate. Someone who has the nerve to piss you off or wrong you, will likely piss off and wrong someone else. And one day, eventually he’ll have it coming for it – even if I don’t lift a finger.
Guess that’s how karma works.