You don’t need a man

written on January 7, 2009 in Life

I read a post yesterday on a certain blog, which I conveniently forgot, about another blog that author A read. She (A) described the said blog as being filled with entries about how that author (B) feels miserable and lonely because she is in her late 20′s and has no prospect of landing a guy in her life, while all her friends have guys or at least potential ones. It wasn’t just one entry, it was the entire blog — entries after entries filled with how she needs a guy in her life and how incomplete she was without one.

Wake up girl! You don’t need a man in your life to feel complete. Being in a relationship is wonderful, and it’s nice to have someone to share your joys, your tears, and your deepest thoughts, but at the same time, it’s unhealthy to completely depend on the guy alone. Your world and social circle should be a lot more than just “you + him = forever”.  When you fall into the mindset that you are incomplete without a man, you’re not only belittling yourself, you’re also subconsciously lowering your standards, only to find out that your Mr. Right is Mr. Anything-but-right. But because of your mindset, you’d rather settle for less when you deserve so much better.

Being alone on Valentine’s Day and dateless at prom doesn’t mean you are lonely and unloved. I used to have the same problem, thinking that I needed a guy to make my life perfect. But when I did have one, it was like discovering  the missing puzzle piece to my puzzle, only to find out that it didn’t fit. I realized that it’s not about others coming into your life to complete you, but about you already being complete just as you are. Only then do you have the capability to give and love others, instead of asking others to love and give unto you.

So Miss B, get out there and go enjoy life, it’s too short to waste on ranting about your man-less life. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, but focus on the family, friends, and other good things you’ve been blessed with. You’ll find that you’re not so alone and incomplete after all.

Who needs dudes when you have friends like these